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Thursday, March 15, 2007

Conflicting Desires

A relationship. Two people, multiple desires. Sometimes they match. Sometimes they don’t. Sometimes one of the people does not get what they want. Sometimes they do. The dance of negotiation. Of big things. Of little things. Of the toilet seat. Or the job offer. Of the city or the suburbs. Of the tolerable and intolerable. Of the negotiable and non-negotiable.

Remind me why we do this...or why we don't.

22 Comments:

Blogger gr said...

I have a feeling that you and the marido are disagreeing on something.

2:07 PM  
Blogger Lucia said...

gr: Actually not! The marido is off in Colombia, and I'm just mulling about life.

2:11 PM  
Blogger Lucia said...

Or...don't other people just think about stuff like this...not related to events?

2:13 PM  
Blogger Thailand Gal said...

I think about that kind of stuff rather often. In fact, the more I think about it, the more I like being single. LOL

After all, is it really worth it to have to do all this negotiating and searching?

Hm. I don't think so. Life is just as rich with good friends.



Peace,


~Chani

2:57 PM  
Blogger Susan as herself said...

I rarely think about stuff regarding relationships unless it pertains to a relationship I am currently in. Maybe that's good, maybe it's bad---I am not sure. But I DO find it's easier to be objective when it's not YOUR relationship you are thinking about or discussing. The further you are from the heat, the less you need to think about putting on an oven mitt.

3:01 PM  
Blogger amusing said...

Because skin on skin feels so good

3:10 PM  
Blogger Allan said...

She loves me...she loves me not...hey!
What happened to all the flowers?

3:31 PM  
Blogger meno said...

We do it because we want to have a place to belong. Someone to hold hands with while we watch TV. Someone to call during the day when we just want to hear a friendly voice.

And because i think we are hard-wired that way.

I think about this kind of stuff too. Why, and is it worth it.

4:54 PM  
Blogger gr said...

Oh, but then you and the dog have been negotiating...

5:31 PM  
Blogger jen said...

because, like perfect pink salmon, we are hell bent on swimming upstream against the truth of existentialism.

5:46 PM  
Blogger ThomasLB said...

It's the old yin/yang shakti thing, a search for a complimentary energy to make us whole.

5:55 PM  
Blogger Lucia said...

gr: It ain't the dog either, as he's off to the kennel, and I'm flying in the morning.

6:03 PM  
Blogger Lucia said...

Y'all, I'm liking your comments. Keep talking...

6:03 PM  
Blogger KC said...

Because having a soul mate through life means that every great moment is sweeter and the tragedies a little more bearable. We do it because we are now whole.

7:52 PM  
Blogger Maggie said...

Lucia, did you see the movie (don't laugh, at least not too hard at me) Shall We Dance? Susan Serandon delivers a great line in which she tells why people get married. To have a witness to their life. To say, "Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it" - down to the mundane things. I love that thought.

8:56 PM  
Blogger kat said...

i don't know why we do this dance. i wish i knew because then i would know whether to keep fighting or to stop.

9:45 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

Sometimes I wonder the same thing.

8:06 AM  
Blogger tkkerouac said...

we do it for the sex
what do you think of the dove ads I've posted?

11:25 AM  
Blogger jen said...

KC is adorable in her idealism.

love you KC.

3:53 PM  
Blogger Marc said...

because i love you

10:33 PM  
Blogger Bobealia... said...

Fek man, sometimes I feel like I'm just along for the ride.

4:18 PM  
Blogger Bobealia... said...

By the way, that sucks...

4:18 PM  

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