A relationship. Two people, multiple desires. Sometimes they match. Sometimes they don’t. Sometimes one of the people does not get what they want. Sometimes they do. The dance of negotiation. Of big things. Of little things. Of the toilet seat. Or the job offer. Of the city or the suburbs. Of the tolerable and intolerable. Of the negotiable and non-negotiable.
Remind me why we do this...or why we don't.
I have a feeling that you and the marido are disagreeing on something.
ReplyDeletegr: Actually not! The marido is off in Colombia, and I'm just mulling about life.
ReplyDeleteOr...don't other people just think about stuff like this...not related to events?
ReplyDeleteI think about that kind of stuff rather often. In fact, the more I think about it, the more I like being single. LOL
ReplyDeleteAfter all, is it really worth it to have to do all this negotiating and searching?
Hm. I don't think so. Life is just as rich with good friends.
Peace,
~Chani
I rarely think about stuff regarding relationships unless it pertains to a relationship I am currently in. Maybe that's good, maybe it's bad---I am not sure. But I DO find it's easier to be objective when it's not YOUR relationship you are thinking about or discussing. The further you are from the heat, the less you need to think about putting on an oven mitt.
ReplyDeleteBecause skin on skin feels so good
ReplyDeleteShe loves me...she loves me not...hey!
ReplyDeleteWhat happened to all the flowers?
We do it because we want to have a place to belong. Someone to hold hands with while we watch TV. Someone to call during the day when we just want to hear a friendly voice.
ReplyDeleteAnd because i think we are hard-wired that way.
I think about this kind of stuff too. Why, and is it worth it.
Oh, but then you and the dog have been negotiating...
ReplyDeletebecause, like perfect pink salmon, we are hell bent on swimming upstream against the truth of existentialism.
ReplyDeleteIt's the old yin/yang shakti thing, a search for a complimentary energy to make us whole.
ReplyDeletegr: It ain't the dog either, as he's off to the kennel, and I'm flying in the morning.
ReplyDeleteY'all, I'm liking your comments. Keep talking...
ReplyDeleteBecause having a soul mate through life means that every great moment is sweeter and the tragedies a little more bearable. We do it because we are now whole.
ReplyDeleteLucia, did you see the movie (don't laugh, at least not too hard at me) Shall We Dance? Susan Serandon delivers a great line in which she tells why people get married. To have a witness to their life. To say, "Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it" - down to the mundane things. I love that thought.
ReplyDeletei don't know why we do this dance. i wish i knew because then i would know whether to keep fighting or to stop.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I wonder the same thing.
ReplyDeletewe do it for the sex
ReplyDeletewhat do you think of the dove ads I've posted?
KC is adorable in her idealism.
ReplyDeletelove you KC.
because i love you
ReplyDeleteFek man, sometimes I feel like I'm just along for the ride.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, that sucks...
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